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Friday, November 15, 2013

Fitness Friday - Vanity: Is it wrong?

I recently read an article coming down hard on workout enthusiasts, saying those people workout for vanity reasons.
 
I wish I could find the article to reference here.  I saw it on Facebook.  It was written by a fitness guru, mom of two.  If anyone knows what article I'm referring to, please let me know and I'll edit this post to include the link.
 
But it kind of set me off a little bit.  The author, a mother of two with an impeccable body, was coming down hard on people who she says workout for vanity reasons.  She went on to state that many people out there workout for health reasons, and to just be healthier - which I totally agree with, and I think that's great.
 
But she made those people who workout for vanity reasons sound like terrible narcissistic people.
 
My questions are: 
 
What's wrong with working out, simply to look better?
 
Why is it terrible to workout in order to lose some flab and look smoking hot in a bikini?
 
What's wrong with wanting to lose a couple percentage points of body fat and gain a few pounds of lean muscle in order to have chiseled arms and abs?
 
When I first started my weight-loss journey, I was around 155 pounds, and wanted to lose about 20 of those. 155 pounds is technically overweight for my height, and I wanted to get "in shape" so one flight of stairs wouldn't wind me.  But let's be honest - I wasn't happy with the way I looked and wanted to be smaller. Is there anything so terribly wrong with that?
 
Obviously, exercising for improving health problems such as heart issues, obesity, Type 2 Diabetes, etc. is fantastic and I encourage and support everyone out there who is doing something to improve their health!!
 
But some of us want to look better.  Plain and simple.
 
What are your thoughts?
 
Is it "okay" to workout so you look better in tight pants, or a swim suit?
 
At what point does vanity become too much, when talking about working out/exercising?

20 comments:

  1. I just recently found your blog, and I just LOVE you. So - to the exercising for vanity...I say - WHO FREAKING CARES why someone is exercising. Isn't the point for all of us to be healthier? If you're exercising just because you want to look great in your skinny jeans and your bikini, and get the side benefit of being healthy and feeling great and NOT being winded when taking the stairs carrying (dragging) two children...then WHAT'S THE PROBLEM?!?!?!?! People get entirely too self righteous about their "causes" and what they perceive to be the "right way" for this, that or the other. It doesn't matter why you work out, you're still getting the benefit of good health because of it, and frankly, it's no one's business what your reasons are!

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  2. A person's reason for doing anything, as long as it doesn't hurt someone else is that person's reason. I agree with you and Kristal. People should mind their own bizzzznesss! : )

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  3. I think it is acceptable to workout for vanity reasons. Everyone has their own reasons for doing things. If I ever decide to start work out again, it would mainly be for becoming healthy and for vanity reasons. (I want to look decent in a bathing suit).

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  4. "Everything in moderation" is my mantra. I like to workout and if I was some freak of nature who didn't "need" to, I probably still would. There is always room for improvement, and it's good for me. Just like anything, though, I think it can become an addiction. If someone is doing anything - drinking, smoking, eating, drugs, gossiping, shopping, being busy, exercising, spending money, working - too much, perhaps there is a bigger issue at hand and some insight might be in order. I think we are ALL vain to a certain extent. Some just more so than others. Sounds to me, though, like you are doing just fine. : )

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  5. I hate working out. I won't do it to be healthy or for vanity. I hate it! It's hard and I am happy with the way that I am. But I wish people could just accept everyone for the way that they are and quit bashing each other. That is what social media has brought us unfortunately!

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  6. Stupid cunt you know nothing bullied and bing tormented daily! You are fucking cunt who is bully. Only bully fucking shit uou spewed. You need what it feels like tormemted and then told toughen up amd get over it. That's the only fucking cunt bullies would learn the pain bullying cause and no one cares. YOu are are fucking piece of shit cunt

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  7. I am wondering if you wil delete my comments that would be hilliours. You can spew shit but you take when you are the one beimg bullied. You are nothing bit stupid cunt. You don't anything an out bullied daily, being tormented daily amd npt have one person, not evem your paremts stamd up for you. You what it was like to wan to kill yourself at the age of 7! You are stupid cunt bully. If you don't feel likes to be tortured every day, you fucking cunt my shut you fucking bitch

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  8. Stupid cunt you arw nothing bully. Only bully would spew the shit you have and bullies would the shit you have spewed. Stupi cunt, you don't whar it is like be torment everyday amd have no one stand up for you. You fucking cunt! Cunts like you meed be raped amd them told to get over and toughen up. See what it is like victim and have no care about you. You fucking piece of shit!

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  9. Stupid cunts like you are to full of themselves. You are fucking bully you stupid cunt. You need to be a victim then maybe stupid cunt will have some empathy for those who have been bullied. You have no emtions you stupid. You spew your fucking nonsense because you don't fucking clue what it is like be bullied. You are fucking you cunt, you are bully! Only bully woud spew the shit you have and only bullu by into fucking shit. Yoj need to be victim. Hoe you get ganged raped then te you fucking cunt to get over it and toughen up. You only learn if you are victim. You are stupid cunt and anyome wjo belives the shit you spew. You need to be bullied need to know what it is like to be victim daily, then maybe you stupid cunts will know the pain of being bullied. Fuck you!

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  10. Fucking bitch, you are fucking, a fucking piece of shit! Fuck you! Go fucking kill yourself you fucking cunt

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  11. Take load gun to your head and pull the triiger you fucking piece of shit. You are a worthless cunt. Your kids will be better off without cunt bitch of so call mother like yoh fucking cunt

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  12. Stupid cunt if you don't have gun get sharp knife slit your wrist you fucking bitch. You don't deserve to live you fucking bitch. You are worthless shit. Your kids will be better without out you you fucking cunt.

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    1. Kathy I hope you have a fantastic day. Thanks!

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  13. Stephanie - I chose your most current post to say a few things that mean an awful lot to me. Who knew someone also chose this post seemly for many of the same reasons and I sorry that anyone should have to see the outcome.

    Thank you for all the heart and soul you have put into your blog. This blog became very important to me today after finding it due to a brief item on a morning show regarding the "viral " post.

    Your blog is such a beautiful and loving chronicle of your fabulous family. Of course you know your boys are delightful, cute as all get out, and keeping you on your toes. Despite life not being all rainbows and unicorns, you and your husband have faced these challenges with wisdom and strength beyond your years. Though I am old enough to be your mom I have learned so much from you today. I have been glued to the laptop, reading your postings, crying at times due to the unfairness that comes some days and laughing with joy at the delight your family has enjoyed. You are blessed and I feel blessed for being given the chance to share. It is thrilling to know not all parents today are empty heads teaching their children that they are entitled to whatever they desire.

    Thank you for helping to chisel away some of the stone wrapped around my heart. And I will second your notion about doctors with Latin accents. A wonderful doctor I know with a Latin accent helped see me through some very dark days and cared even when I didn't. And to Nathan, kudos for your sharing, support and encouragement.

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    1. First let me say how much I like to see your work and read your blog.
      On the topic of healthy eating I would like to say: Have you thought about the horrible conditions most of the farm animals live, in farm factories?
      First thing that concerns me is the animal suffering.Also I do think it is not at all healthy to eat animals that have had such stress in their lives.And last I do not think it is ethical. The philosopher Jonathan Saffran Foer writes about this, that when he had a little son, he thought about, how can I raise him, eating this animal misery.And how can I justify this to him, once he has the age he starts asking questions...?
      This came to my mind, also because of your beautiful son True.I hope you want to think about this.
      Thanks you for your beautiful book and inspiration!health

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  15. I love reading your blog!! I found it when someone had posted a link on Facebook to "Why my kids are not the center of my world". I absolutely loved this and it hit close to home with me regarding my 9yo son...the boys will be boys...my son got in trouble at school for roughhousing in the gym with his friend...typical boys being boys; but I had to talk to him and tell him how the school saw it and that he would have to wait until he was home to do things like that.

    Today's blog is great!! There has been so much negativity lately towards those who work out and eat healthy. I honestly do not think it should matter why you are doing it...to be healthy, to live longer, to look good..whatever your reason, as long as you are doing it for your own reasons should be all that matters.

    I would love to be motivated enough to actually work out...I keep saying I'm going to start, but then I never do. My reasoning to work out is that, yes I would like to be healthier & live longer for my children (and someday grandchildren), but honestly I would love to look "hot" in a bikini again; and to be able to wear cute, tight clothes. As a single 40something mom, to be called "hot" would be an epic ego boost :)

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